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Honeymoon Thoughts

Tonight I am exhausted, but I want to share some honeymoon thoughts – disjointed as they may be.  Rick and I traveled from our second honeymoon destination, Costa Rica, to our third honeymoon destination (Sacramento, CA) today.  We have been up for about 24 hours now, except for a few cat naps on the plane(s).  We got to meet with a seminary friend of mine during a layover and tonight we got to have dinner with my cousin and her husband.  It’s been a wonderful day in spite of the hours of travel.

Traveling is so much easier with a kind and loving man beside me.  I traveled alone for years – business trips, visits home, etc.  Having a man beside me to help with the luggage, to lean on when I want to sleep, to consult on decisions about where to turn or get gas is all such a blessing.  I’m so used to doing things alone that I didn’t even realize what I was missing.

As we traveled, I listened to our reception music play list on my iPod.  I kept finding myself tearing up, choking back tears as I listened to the words of the songs.  I was so overwhelmed with wedding details when I made the play list that I didn’t really take the time to appreciate how the words of the songs applied to our situation.  Song after song reminded me of how blessed I am to have the love of this wonderful man.  Here’s a little sampling of the songs that have been been the soundtrack of my day (and our reception):

The More I See You – Michael Bublé
What a Difference a Day Makes – Jaimee Paul
Don’t Let Me Lose My Wonder – Keith and Kristyn Getty
Give In to Me – Garrett Hedlund & Leighton Meester
Defying Gravity – Glee Cast Version
You and Me – Dave Matthews Band
Unpredictable – Francesca Battistelli
She Is – The Fray
Change – Taylor Swift
Smile – Uncle Kracker
Come On Get Higher – Sugarland
Timing Is Everything – Garrett Hedlund
Glitter In the Air – P!nk
These Are Days – 10,000 Maniacs
Looking For You – Amy Grant
All I Want to Do – Sugarland
Love Story – Taylor Swift

Once we get to our new home and have some time to edit our honeymoon pictures, I’ll post some.  We have had quite the adventure.  It’s been wonderful.  But right now I’m going to get some sleep.  How was I able to write a blog on my honeymoon?  Well, my amazing husband is tireless and decided to use the hotel laundry room tonight to wash all our dirty clothes.  I am in awe.

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Wedding Pictures

Me and our flower girl, my niece Alexis, with our matching bracelets.

In between going to the aquarium, riding a ski lift in 18 degree weather, and getting thoroughly beaten in air hockey, I’ve spent a few minutes today working on wedding pictures.  My good friend Leslie Coelho travelled from Michigan to photograph our wedding, then downloaded the pictures to my computer.  I’ve done a little cropping and color-correcting.

Inside the prayer tower at our church

One last father-daughter hug before he gave me away...

One last look in the mirror before walking down the aisle

 

Ceremony Decor

 

Table Setting at the Reception

 

Okay, now my husband is saying I should not be spending time on our honeymoon messing with my blog!  He is waiting for me to make use of our cabin’s hot tub.  I’ll have to catch you all later…  🙂

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I’m Married!

It’s January 1, 2012, and I have been married for 2 1/2 days!  Rick and I are happily holed up in a cabin in the mountains.  We have an amazing honeymoon planned and I have no intention of spending it on my blog…  However, in honor of the new year, I thought I should write one quick post.  I plan to change my blog soon and write about my new experiences as a rural mid-western farmer’s wife.

In the meantime, a few pictures from the wedding for you…

We Did It!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Bridal Bouquet and Wedding Rings

My Dearest Friends

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Working It Out

Rick laughs and tells me everything I write about him makes it seem like our relationship has been smooth sailing from day one, the stuff of romance novels.  That’s not exactly true, I say.  Anyone with a brain will know that two people in a relationship have struggles.  And my sweet farmer-fiancé just smiles.

He apologizes to me for making me cry on a semi-regular basis.  I laugh and tell him, we’re just working it out.  I cry.  I cry when doing the laundry of the beautiful and frustrating children whose parents I now help out.  Those tiny little clothes are getting bigger.  I will miss their sparkly eyes and their unruly hair and the frightfully intelligent smart-aleck comments.  And when I realize how much I’ll miss them, I get weepy for my own unborn (un-conceived!) children who will also grow up and change and not be babies forever.  I get teary when I see the wedding of anyone else these days.  Reading the poetic blog of a young farmer’s wife leaves me wiping my eyes.  So, sweet man, there is no need to apologize.  I cry.

The emotional roller-coaster I was on during the first few months of our relationship left me wondering if I needed some kind of medication.  I swung between feelings of total assurance that this amazing man was the one for me to equal certainty that it would never work and I was giving a kind and gracious man false hope.  I mean, seriously, ME?  A farmer’s wife???  I asked him if he was still single at his age because he had some kind of weird perversion and watched like a hawk for months, looking in vain for any sign of addiction or character-flaw.   I didn’t talk to him for an entire weekend because I thought he had called me fat.  He had no idea the comment he thought was encouraging hit a raw and exposed nerve and sent me reeling.  He went to another country for six weeks and called me twice a week.  After talking several times a day every day for the previous six months, I felt like I’d been totally abandoned.  He says he was thinking about me the entire time and thought calling that often while he was on a mission trip was going above and beyond.

We are a real couple with real challenges.  After so many years of singleness, we are learning what it means to be a couple.  We are learning to change our thinking from “me and my friends/family/church” to “us and our future together”.  It doesn’t always come easy.  When the sales lady at the department store told me the total on some makeup I purchased during his recent visit, his jaw hit the floor.  Is that how much that stuff always costs?  I’m
learning what it means to have someone else look at how I spend my money.
  Um, er, our money…  Ouch.

But how can two people learn to meld their separate lives into one any other way?  We have to learn to navigate one another’s currents.  We work together to figure each other out, and we try to be gracious through the challenges.  We laugh a lot – maybe not at the moment we realize how very differently we think about something – but eventually.  We are learning to compromise.  I’m learning that I am right a lot less often than I thought.

Through the challenges, we are learning what it means to be loved.  Acceptance, right where we are, for who we are, is a daily practice.  And it’s worth it.  When I look into his brilliant blue eyes, kindness oozing from every
part of him, I see the glory of God.
I see just how much God loves me and wants what’s best for me.

I am so thankful for this man who fixes my broken furniture, loads dozens of heavy boxes into his truck for their journey north, and never loses his temper.  Gratitude fills my heart for this generous man who wants to give me the honeymoon of my dreams.  I am deeply in love.  His precious soul is becoming intertwined with mine.

And yet…  I still have to remind myself that he isn’t getting off the phone early with me tonight because he doesn’t want to talk to me. He is hanging up because I asked him to help me get to bed earlier by ending our conversations earlier.  It feels like he doesn’t want to talk, but he is simply honoring my request for adequate rest.  So I give myself a little pep talk, thank him for being so responsible, and (because I have time) sit down and write a blog.

We are working it out. 

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