Sex Sells?


Today marks the one-year anniversary of the day I began revealing some of my private thoughts to the world on a blog.  I had no idea a colleague’s suggestion to start a blog for the purpose of communicating more of myself to the members of our church would turn into such a big part of my life.  I didn’t know if anyone really wanted to read my thoughts and feelings, but I decided to give it a try.    

I’ve had some heartache this year as a result of this blog.  A few people I love dearly have misunderstood or simply not liked what I’ve written.  It’s possible that they thought they knew me and once they read my blog, they decided they didn’t like me.  Ouch.  But this blog has also brought me great joy as people have commented on something that’s helped them in some way or how alike we really are.    

I’m learning to accept the controversy and even discomfort others might feel at what I choose to share.  I’m learning to deal with the shock I feel when someone I don’t know well asks how my debt-reduction plan is going or some other personal question they wouldn’t normally know about me.  Oh yeah…  I wrote about that on the internet for anyone to read!     

I’m also learning what people like to read and what they really don’t care about.  I’m also learning that people don’t always post comments on the things they like, but might tell me later that a posting helped them not to feel so crazy or alone.    

There’s this addicting little page available to me called “Blog Stats” that lets me know how many visitors I’ve had, what posts they’ve read, and so forth.  I try not to let my emotions rise and fall with the rise and fall of the number of readers each day.  I’ve tried to let the page teach me what works and what doesn’t.  I’m not always successful though.  I don’t like the days of zero readers, although that hasn’t happened in a while.    

I can only imagine, what it will be like, when my stats get this high...


I find myself wondering how many readers other bloggers have.  How do I stack up?  And how do those power bloggers with 10,000 readers a day do it?  They say sex sells.  Maybe I should write more about that?    

Here is a list of posts you clicked on most this year:    

  1. Orie Wenger – I wrote down some memories of my uncle who passed away in June of 2009.  Many people loved him and losing him was a terrible tragedy.
  2. Ash Wednesday – The beginning of a spiritual and personal journey I have been on to cut out the excesses in my life and focus on just being a Christian.
  3. Strength of Soul – A devotional posting I wrote in response to Psalm 138. 
  4. Thoughts on “Back to School” – This post created some serious controversy, which came as a surprise to me.  I almost deleted it, but decided a little controversy was okay.

Hmmm….  None of these were about sex or anything particularly scandalous at all.    

If I were choosing which posts I most want you to read, I think I like the ones I’ve posted recently the best.  I realize that might be how I felt at most points in the last year.  I’m not sure, but here they are anyway:   

  1. The Truth Hurts, but Silence Kills
  2. Anxiety
  3. Depression
  4. Haiti

I’ve posted 54 times in the last 52 weeks.  My goal at the beginning was to post three times a week, but I found that few people have the time or inclination to read three posts a week.  I also discovered I would rather write less often and have something of quality to say than stick to a prescribed number of writings per week.  I’ve written about sex a little bit here and there, but not much.  I guess a celibate, single girl’s thoughts on sex aren’t that exciting, although I assure I have some many thoughts on the subject.    

Thank you for joining me on this journey.  I’m looking forward to the new things I’ll learn in the second year of blogging.  If you have any suggestions or want to hear my thoughts/opinions on a particular subject, I’d love to hear from you.  When you post comments, it makes me so happy.


Filed under Just Goofing Around, Odds and Ends

5 responses to “Sex Sells?

  1. reflectionsbypj

    Thank you for sharing your personal victories, life lessons, and intimate details with us over this past year. You help us relate, laugh, and even cry. I’m looking forward to the next year and hearing all that you have to share, even if isn’t about sex. ;o)

    By the way, Strength of Soul is my favorite and Haiti is running closely behind.

  2. Antonia (Toni)

    I read your blogs and find myself several times throughout the week checking to see if a new one has been posted.

    I enjoyed the “Haiti” blog as we are able to see what God is doing in your life. A friend said to me – long time ago – “You haven’t lived till you’ve walked with God.” I have throughout my life always remembered this remark. He has gone on to be with our Lord.

    I was able to relate to “The Truth Hurts, But Silence Kills” — I have experienced when you speak the truth (even in love) some of us are labeled as “sick” or “crazy” and when you start to believe this it causes you to second-guess yourself.

    You may not realize this but you are speaking for those who do not have a voice.

    I appreciate you having courage to allow us to see the real person within you.

    Blessings and I am looking forward to more in 2010.

  3. Kelly Sims

    Being yourself is the very best way to be, and if people don’t like it, then screw them.

    Who needs friends like that in their life anyways?

    When I’m writing my blog, sometimes I think, “I shouldn’t write this; people might not like me.”

    And then I instantly think, “Well, if they don’t, then too bad.”

    I’m not going to pretend in order to please somebody else.

    Just keep it real. That’s what’s important.

    The unmasked person is far more attractive than the masked.

  4. I love all your stories/thoughts. I have treasured your sincere friendship and greatly value your honesty. You are a wonderful model of someone who has chosen to be real and transparent; which in turn sets other free.

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